If he is quiet for a long time or stumbles awkwardly, he is likely undecided. In this case, stay true to yourself and your desire for monogamy. You are clarifying an intimacy boundary for him. However, avoid saying this on the first few dates because clients have told me some men say yes to exclusivity so they can sleep with you. But then disappear anyway.

This conversation only works after four or five dates, so the man has already shown consistent interest in you.

Whatever you do, do not ignore this. If you talk about monogamy and he continues to look online, be honest with yourself.

The right man for you will not only accept exclusivity but will WANT you to be his one and only. Do NOT settle here or you are sure to end up broken-hearted.

Great article indeed! This sets me thinking as I am currently single and am interested in my close guy friend whom I thought was interested in me as well. He has just ended a relationship and is using a dating app and met someone new there too. Very confused now as I thought he likes spending time with me and sees me as a potential. Am feeling really sad too as im not sure what should be the next step to take.

Hi Cressilda, Think about this with logic instead of feelings. Yet, at the same time he starts dating online. Instead of healing from his broken relationship, he is looking for attention from more than one woman. My dating advice is to pull back and protect your heart.

He needs time to regain his balance and you need to avoid being hurt by him during this process. I hope your friendship can be picked up again soon, depending on how hurt you feel and how considerate or thoughtless he is.

He is divorced 5 years with three girls. He is 50 and in Switzerland, I am 61 and in the UK. I am talking only to him for three weeks. Now he has invited me to visit him. He wants to meet first to see if he has fallen in love as he falls hard.

My question is am I moving too fast? Is he a player? Or am I being unreasonable? We agreed to meet when he has less work, the pandemic etc.

So anxious but already have emotional connection he shares his personal feelings and hobbies! He is stringing you along because the fantasy is fun.

You have to meet a series of men because you never know who will call again. Men with excuses are NOT serious. Words are meaningless. How do you even know the photo is really him? My dating advice to you Jayne is to learn more about dating today, how it works, and men. Then go out to meet men locally if you want to find love. He said he did not show that day as he ex came to his home and found him on POF and freaked out. This was the reason.

But he told me its long over their marriage and said she wont be allowed in his house or at least where his computer is anymore- I could hear anger in his voice. So then a few days goes by he asks if he can see me, so he comes over for coffee it was sunday evening. Things went well I felt a good connection, we made out etc.

Saw him one more time a few days later, then he said hes getting a hip surgery and has to work a lot of OT plus his daughter is moving to another city for college with her things hes been moving her.

I offered to help with anything esp. when hes recovering at home, he said no thanks. He said he wanted to see me this Monday which is tomorrow holiday. So 2 hrs later he messaged me. He said he enjoys being around me too. He said I not an option. He said he does not want to lead me on! He said maybe its best if we stop contact until after his surgery and hes well again which could be weeks!

Then he said he may not get to his computer much to message me!. But he has a phone, why would he say that? It that a way to twist my brain?

So I then thanked him and said im going out for birthday drinks. I left him a voicemail 1 hr later just one , its now sunday, he never called me back!! The next morning I saw him in there at am, did some things, came back at am, he DELETED HIS ENTIRE PROFILE!

So I went in and deleted mine as well! One guy got mad cause I wanted him to confirm IM hes still coming!! He already has pictures of me, I have sent by phone and I asked him that he had been online, he said it was because he was checking whether I had been online, I have left it a week and sure enough he has been online in the last 24 hours.

Just recently went through this on another site. We dated for two months, spent a lot of good times together, dinners out, movies, nights out with friends, and eventually sex was involved. He told me that I made him very happy etc. Then he started pulling away, less texting, calls stopped, excuses started.

I had a feeling he was lying to me about the excuses its happened before. Seems likes bs to me. Well, I shut down my profile a week after meeting him. I just had a weird feeling to log in one day and see if he was online …AND HE WAS!!! He continues to be online at unusual times really late at night or early in the morning.

If I make him happy, why look at others? Plus, he said he wanted space? I deserve better. This guy i met online and he said he needed space to get over an ex. Its been 6 weeks no contact. His profile was still on but he took down his pictures and remained inactive for a month but just yesterday went online and reattached his pictures. Anyway i think its A. Is he trying to test my reaction and call him out on it?

Why do guys do this??? I thought he was a genuine nice guy. YOU STILL DIDNT ANSWER MY QUESTION. I ASKED YOU WHY MATCH. this is her email!!! if not Ill call the cops. He told me he loves me and he said he meant it, and would never cheat on me, and I believed it.

He constantly went on dating apps to talk to other girls and he confessed to me and told me he cheated on me. I felt hurt because I thought I knew him and I thought cheating would be the last thing he would to do me.

I never thought he would do that to me because of all the words he had said to me about how much he loves me and so on. He said he is serious about me and called me wifey. He brought me to his parents but seem to be quite scared of letting his friends see me. My boyfriend is very self-centered, which he also admitted. Sometimes I feel like he only cares about himself, pays a lot of attention on himself rather than on me now.

I even flew all the way just to get him to talk about this with me because I thought I had to talk about this with him. Since our last huge fight regarding him talking to other girls he said he had deleted the dating apps.

But he would still talk to a few girls he met on okcupid on whatsapp. Constantly texting them. I asked him why, he said because this girl called Dion had recently been to korea and he just wanted to ask information about traveling to korea.

So that obviously was an excuse. Although my trust to him is kind of broken but I still want to trust him again. We talked about this issue almost every night and I told him I feel hurt that he still talks to girls from dating app.

Then I asked him if he wants to meet friends then why only talk to pretty slim girls but not guys? Why only pick pretty girls to talk to to be his new friend? Why does he stil want to meet other pretty girls? After another conflict again his mind changed a bit. I said nothing, because minimizing still means he still gets to talk to them. Although we are ok now but I just feel so helpless.

My friends kept telling me to dump him. But what about me? Why are men like that? Hello, I read ur full story. I think you are the opposite of me although we share sth in common, I am also an observant girl when I am dating online, which is what I am doing now. However, I would do the opposite if I found out the guy I am with is doing all these dating app things behind me.

You have made him feel like you will never leave, and he can always get you back as long as he stops it for a while. What I mean is, dress up and make up urself everyday, keep yourself in the best condition, and go out to meet friends and new guys, and let him see these changes!

I donno if you have thought about this? If you want to make him become obsess with you, you should just go back to the one you were before, the one who attracted this guy to fall in love with you. If the guy looks at your profile, you get a notification. Seriously, grow up! The advice in this article is terrible.

His actions are speaking louder than words. He wants something better, or someone else. Since that moment I knew I had to break contact with him since we were not on the same page. I will have to trust his decision, and if I ever feel like my mistrust of him is too big to continue, I will let him know and I will break it off, just like I had intended the first time. This dating scene nowadays is tough , it is tempting not only to look around for other people because dating websites are just a click away, but snooping is easier as well, and very tempting.

I wish you all luck out there, be smart. Why did you let him talk you into staying with him? Your gut instinct was right. Life is too short to waste on second best relationships.

I would rather be single. I my name is susan like to call sue. I need to start looking for a honest guy. Iam 49 year old. Have four grow up children. Iam single. Was engaged to a man but he been cheating on me, please need to leave and start anew life, i lost myhusband in Now my life is tore up. I wish I could find an article more recent in regards to this topic. I myself have been dating a guy for a little over a month.

Well, curiosity killed the cat, so I created a fake profile and though his was hidden, there are ways to search and find it regardless. I realized he accessed his account and kept mum. I suppose my issue is that his profile IS hidden therefore does not show up in any searches, so why is he accessing his account? If HE emails someone, they then have access to his profile and it can go from there. SO, why would he go and do something that would make me doubt him.

Let alone make me feel like he is keeping me around until he finds something better. You know the answer already. If you were your own best friend, what advice would you give yourself. Your gut instinct is right. Value yourself and find someone who wants you and no one else.

I disagree with the advice in this article. The guy HAS given her a reason to distrust him. He offered exclusivity, yet actively participates in an online dating community.

and logging on IS participating. When a person last logged in is public information. Then Mr. How transparent is that. Plain and simple. Totally agree with you Moops. Well said. Trust is very hard and someone should give you reasons to trust! I agree with you Moops. I had been dating this guy I met online for 4 months. after the first month, we decided to be exclusive. I told him I was taking down my match account. He said he would also. Not only did he not do that, he joined pof and meet me!

I decided to still give him the benefit of the doubt. Yes he really said that! I said he was the one who was searching.

and why did he update his profile? Girls, stop the madness! I was honest with myself and realized I was only with him because I was lonely, and it is so hard to meet someone nice, but I was doing myself a disservice. Still trying to find the one…. totally agree with Moops!! This very thing happened to me. Wasted an entire year on this man. Gave him the benefit of the doubt in the name of trust and it was a bad decision.

Now I not only wasted a year but have spent six months trying to recover emotionally and am going back into the dating scene with less trust. If he is logging in…… he is looking or communicating and the bottom line is… you will never be able to trust him completely because this will always be in the back of your mind.

you deserve better!!! Keep looking! A truly excellent reply. This article seems to expose a type of man that is rotten to the core and is capable of using women without any conscience.

The whole interaction left me feeling sick to my stomach. I completely agree that if someone is still checking dating sites after committing to someone then they are leaving options open,stroking their ego,or seeing you as for now person Its disrespectful and breaks trust not builds it.

I met someone in my home area on an online dating site. We have gone out 3 times in two weeks, and have several dates already arranged for the coming week. We are both divorced and he has a child almost every weekend, so we typically do not see each other from Friday to Monday night. I took my profile off the site because I believe it leads to hurt feelings and in my little mind, why make him not trust me.

What I did was set up a bogus account and I can see he is on the site each day, even after we have gone out. He is on and off the site daily. There are times I have been on the phone with him or in the midst of sending a text back and forth when he is on the site. I really want to find out why men do this? If they meet someone and apparently things are going well, so what is up with men who need to see or chat with other women?

It was after telling him this that he asked me if I can go out with him on several days for the coming week. So what is up with men you meet online and how they still log in and show chat venue open.

Thanks, Sammy. I have been going through a similar situation and would really appreciate the feedback on here. Im 24 yrs old and im very attractive and have never been in a real relationship and crave that part of my life with someone special.

I have been on the online dating scene for 3 yrs and have been on sooooooo many dates and havent found anyone who I am remotely interested in until 3 and a half months ago. When it comes to me and dating I think I have the worst luck and i cant even get past the 3rd date with someone so I am always walking on pins and needles each time.

But here is my situation:. He first told me that he wasnt looking for anything super super serious and i said well lets take it slow and see where it leads to. He was always treating me like i was his gf and i met one of his close friends and he took me and my sis and his friend out for dinner. I never had any guy treat me like that.

This guy always mentions me to his neighbors and friends but we dont have a label on it. He also talks about personal stuff with him and his whole family and i really thought we were connecting. I also attempted to lose my virginity to him. I never told him i was a virgin the whole time and then it just came out and he was at first mad but then he understood where i was coming from and i kept asking him if he was ok with me not being experienced and he said he was.

But always in the back of my mind it has been bothering me that i am inexperienced because he has been around the block and would leave me for someone who is great in the bedroom.

I am alsooo very very shy around him because i like him sooo much and i feel sooo out of place even when doing stuff in the bedroom.

I just cant seem to snap out of being scared and shy when im with him. Recently i just went on match and saw he was active within 24 hrs and im like wtfff. I feel sooo played but i dont wanna jump to conclusions and he hasnt contacted me in 2 days and im feeling like he wants to find someone who is way more experienced than i am. But the thing is we really connected and I dont think anyone can come close. Its sooo strange cause we started hanging out together times a week recently and he just cant stop staring at me at every moment wen im with him.

Im sooo scared to lose this guy and dont know what to think right now. All my friends that I ask think he is playing me and i dont know if i should even listen to anyone because everyone can have their different reasons. Im really falling for this guy and I never ever pressure him on anything cause i know men dont like to be pressured so i kind of take each day as it comes. Yes, suspicion can destroy a relationship if it is unfounded.

But sometimes suspicion is justified. Hana, this guy is looking around while enjoying you and wonderful qualities. Match and eHarmony screen pretty well, and if a guy has an active profile on a site like one of those, it usually and I would say A girlfriend or boyfriend can usually tell it the profile is real in any number of ways — if the profile has exact details about height and weight, the writing style that was used, etc…..

This girl is just going to get hurt. She should leave the guy ASAP. you could be experiencing something similar to what ive experienced before. The terms seeing someone and dating someone, while very different, both have their own ups and downs. Before the first date, think of your favorite hang-outs that you enjoy and would also likely be fun for others too, such as the beach.

Nonetheless, relationships are beautiful, so enjoy every minute of them. If you plan to start dating in the near future, then put on some nice clothes and deodorant. It also helps to keep a few locations in mind. The rest will fall into place!

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By: Rosie Valentine Last updated: September 28, Date and Dateless by Instant Vantage on Flickr. Some of us have been there. You meet someone awesome; start dating, and then suddenly you realize they still have an active online dating profile. But regardless, what do you do about it? The easiest and quickest way to meet people in your area looking for a relationship is to sign up for a dating site like We Love Dates.

A site dedicated to helping people find love:. This scenario can be really tricky, but no matter what you do avoid looking like you were snooping for information. It also depends on many factors. How long have you been dating? Is it same dating site where you both met? Did you already have the conversation to deactivate all your profiles?

And then you could miss out on what could have been. The simple fact is, there could be a perfectly good explanation and talking it out could rectify the situation. So, bring it up as casual as possible and allow him or her to explain. But and there is a huge but here I took my profiles off any sites that I was on. I am not active on any of these sites and my fiancé knows that I may have a profile or two out there.

He or she might not be cheating, but they are definitely disrespecting you and your relationship. Has anyone ever found their significant other on a dating site? Or have you been the one caught on a dating site? Tell us about it. Date and Dateless by Instant Vantage on Flickr Some of us have been there. Dating Sites The easiest and quickest way to meet people in your area looking for a relationship is to sign up for a dating site like We Love Dates.

He said he would also. So much, wasted, and this moment keeps slipping away. Well said. I managed to close the tab I was on by mistake and when I opened what I thought was the right one I found it was his dating website profile. So then a few days goes by he asks if he can see me, so he comes over for coffee it was sunday evening. All this crap about it being ok anf find ouy first is straight crap. I really want to find out why men do this?

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